We had The Talk tonight (Friday night, January 1st, 2010).
It went as well as I imagine any such talk could go. We are in agreement with regard to the big picture. There are no illusions. Nobody has been misreading the situation. She doesn’t want to be married to me (although divorce is scary to her, as it has been to me), and I can’t stay in this situation as it is.
We discussed and agree upon principles for divvying up our stuff, figuring out a shared child custody plan, etc. We still need to work out the details, but at least we have a mutually acceptable starting point.
Although I’ve mentioned it here before, I don’t know that I’ve stressed it enough: our financial situation is precarious, and a great deal needs to be resolved with regard to our financial house before we can finalize a divorce plan. We both need to find reliable income tout de suite. I have genuine concerns about what happens if I find reliable income soon and she doesn’t… concerns, in particular, about her dragging this out. I will be keeping a close eye on the situation. I will not allow my life to continue to be bled away one day at a time. And I delicately (but firmly) said as much to Penny.
That said, we’ve begun to figure out what our divorce is going to look like. Our marriage is over.
Penny is officially my Soon-To-Be-Ex-Wife.
2010. We’re only one day in, and already, you’re proving to be a rather consequential year.
I wonder what January 2nd has in store.